Follow effective action with quiet reflection. From the quiet reflection will come even more effective action.              

– Peter Ducker


        My wish for each of you this Thanksgiving weekend is that you are surrounded by those you love. Family is what we make it and who we want it to be. It is important to recognize that who we are and how we behave is influenced by those individuals who are in our life.

       Take a moment to think about that. In the last year we have all changed, grown, and changed our viewpoint on many subjects and topics. That is what growth is all about. It is making sure that we are improving and doing better each day. It is about self-reflection on who we are now and who we want to be. The process then is, how do I become that person I want to be and who can help encourage and hold me accountable to that change. Change is hardest when we have no one to check in with, to push us as we grow. But as we change and go from one season in our life to the next we encounter this unique space. This unique space is where we decide to step into our new rebooted version or fall back into our old comfortable self.

       A friend shared this concept with me: the liminal space. What a word! The liminal space is the time between the ‘what was’ and the ‘what is next.’ It is a place of transition, a season of waiting, and not knowing. Liminal space is where all transformation takes place. It is that growth zone of who you were and who you are becoming. It is being patient as you reflect, change, and grow into the “improved” version of who you are.

      You can boldly approach the change and goals you have set for yourself and confidently move forward into your future through this liminal space. I often tell my teens that we have zones of growth and that it starts by moving out of our comfort zone, into our fear zone. The next area is the learning zone and the growth zone. I feel that the liminal space is that transition between learning and growth as we step into our future self, only to reflect and start the process of personal growth all over.

      As we reflect on the holiday, we account for that which makes us grateful and thankful. But do we consider what the next personal challenge for growth will be? As we move through this holiday season, take a moment to celebrate the growth you have had this year and think about the growth you want in the upcoming year and what you need to do to make that a reality. Often sharing and talking with a life coach is helpful. Defining personal growth goals and objectives is important to help us to continue with that growth mindset throughout our life. With much love from our family to yours.