Resilience is not about being invulnerable. It’s about being able to get back up after you’ve been knocked down. (Brené Brown).


Being a teenager can be tough. Hormones are raging, friendships are changing, and school can be stressful. Building resilience and grit can help teens navigate these challenges and come out stronger on the other side.

So, what exactly is resilience and grit? Resilience is the ability to bounce back from difficult situations, while grit is the perseverance and passion to achieve long-term goals. Together, these qualities can help teens face challenges head-on and develop the skills they need to succeed in life.

Here are three ways for building your teen’s resilience and grit. First, encourage your teen to take on challenges. When faced with a difficult task or situation, it can be tempting for teens to give up or avoid it altogether. But overcoming challenges is key to building resilience and grit. Encourage your teen to take on new challenges, even if they’re afraid of failing. By taking risks and learning from their mistakes, your teen can develop the resilience and grit they need to succeed in the long run. Celebrate the journey and your teens willingness to “stick it out”.

Next, teach your teen to reframe negative thoughts. When faced with a setback or failure, it’s easy for teens to fall into negative thinking patterns. But negative self-talk can be detrimental to their resilience and grit. Teach your teen to reframe negative thoughts and focus on the positive aspects of a situation. By looking for opportunities to learn and grow, your teen can build resilience and grit in the face of adversity. A setback is not a failure but a hurdle to work around and to find another way to achieve their goal. In minimizing your teen’s negative thoughts about themself, you want to shift your teen into fostering a growth mindset. A growth mindset is the belief that intelligence and abilities can be developed through hard work and dedication. Encourage your teen to embrace challenges as opportunities to learn and grow, rather than obstacles to be avoided. By adopting a growth mindset, your teen can develop the grit and determination needed to achieve long-term goals.

Last, encourage your teen to practice self-care. Self-care is essential for building resilience and grit. Encourage your teen to prioritize sleep, exercise, and healthy eating habits. Encourage them to find activities they enjoy, such as hobbies or sports, and make time for them regularly. By taking care of their physical and emotional needs, your teen can build the resilience and grit needed to face life’s challenges head-on.

Building resilience and grit is essential for helping teens navigate the challenges of adolescence and succeed in life. By encouraging your teen to take on challenges, reframe negative thoughts, foster a growth mindset, build a strong support system, and practice self-care, you can help them develop the resilience and grit they need to achieve their goals. Teen life coaching with Encouraging Teens can also be a valuable resource for building resilience and grit, providing your teen with the tools and support they need to thrive.